Ideas for Creating a Growth Mindset Environment at Home:
- We can't expect our children to have a growth mindset if we don't have one ourselves. Recognize fixed mindset thinking in your self and talk yourself into a growth mindset. This can also be done out loud so that your child can hear how you are changing your mindset. For example, you might catch yourself saying, "I can't figure out how to fill out this document". Then quickly rephrase it to add "I think I need to check on the website or call the bank so I can ask some questions, then I am sure I will be able to fill it out accurately".
- Be aware of your own fixed mindset statements such as "I am a terrible cook", "I was never good at math either", or "I wish I could play the piano like you do" (You can, with practice and perseverance!)
- Be aware of blaming genetics for anything - both positive and negative.
- Be careful about comparing your kids to their siblings or other kids.
- We want our children to enjoy the process of learning - not just be successful. Model this concept at home. For example, after a less than desirable outcome trying to backe something challenging, you might say " I really learned a lot making those cookies" rather than "Uggh, what a waste of time. That was an epic fail. I will never try that recipe again."
- Praise what your child does, not who he or she is. Praise perseverance and resiliency when you see your child struggle or face challenge. Avoid praising grades. Focus on praising work ethic and effort - not achievement.
- Adopt the word "yet' into your vocabulary. If your child proclaims he doesn't understand something, remind him that he can't "yet' but with hard work he will have success.